The Best Tools Available

Everyone uses the tools they think are the best ones or they wouldn’t develop them, but that doesn’t mean they are the best tools available. If a tool is truly the best, it will never ever cause suffering to oneself or others.

One can only use the tools that have been developed to react to life situation. Whatever ones that have been developed to cope with life whether it be alcohol, drugs, anger, programs, therapy, medication, suicide, cutting, fantasizing, success, wealth, poverty, race, greed, envy, false pride, religion, tv, politics, sex, food, and so on, they are only used because they’re thought to be the best ones. If the developed tools stop working, new ones will need to be developed that work better. If no new ones are developed, the old ones will be used again and again. There is no way around this.

You will know when you are using the best available tools because they will never cause you or anyone else to suffer. What’s meant by a best tool is reflected in the actions that manifest. If there is conflict within that causes conflict with others, something isn’t right. The best tools will never cause conflict because that would equate to suffering. The gauge to see if the tools being used are truly the best available is in how much attachment one has. Attachment is the cause of all suffering so it’s a true gauge that can be used. Self investigation is also a tool, matter of fact every reaction one has is the result of a developed tool.

The best tool will never ever cause suffering to oneself or others, this is a fact. It can’t because it’s based in the quietness of love. Tools that are based in attachment to satisfy oneself cause suffering and this occurs regardless if one thinks they are using the best tools. Love doesn’t attach or ever cause suffering, nor do one’s developed tools as long as they are the best ones available.


Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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