It’s All Small Stuff

Everything should be considered small stuff in life because nobody gets out alive and regardless of how tight life is held onto, one day just like that it’s over along with everything that one attaches to.

When you can see that all things pass, everything is considered small stuff because it is. Even being diagnosed with a terminal illness is small stuff because it too will come to pass whether you accept it or not. I’m fifty nine years old and I can’t really pinpoint where that time has gone. It seems like only yesterday that I was in my twenty’s. Life is a phenomenon because of how everything passes. When one lives strictly from the mind, it’s difficult to experiences the beauty of life. Nobody gets out alive regardless of how tight life is held onto and one day just like that it’s over along with everything that one has attached to.

We make mountains out of molehills when there’s no awareness that all things pass. Looking at everything as though it is small stuff is invaluable as a tool because it allows you to not attach to things which makes even life itself become small. Everything is the small stuff and if it’s not seen in this way, instantly the mind comes into play and bondage follows, and where there’s bondage there’s suffering. This suffering is created because it’s not seen that everything passes including life itself so what’s the point in attaching to anything because one day and no one knows when that day will be, life will end. So regardless of how tight anything is held onto, it all becomes small stuff simply because it will all come to pass.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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