Moment of Contact

The moment of contact with life simply occurs because one is alive. As a matter of fact, it even occurs when one isn’t alive, there just isn’t awareness the moment of contact is happening.

Because of the way one is conditioned, each moment of contact with life is put into a category of pleasant and unpleasant, there are also times it seems the moment of contact is neither. The only reason anyone has an issue with life is because it’s desirable to have each moment of contact pleasant, but this is impossible because life isn’t designed in this way. Not that life does anything to anyone, but things do happen that can be considered downright nasty. Case in point, the on going recent events with my mouth, I can attach that the process going on as unpleasant, but it wouldn’t change what’s happening, it would only change the degree of suffering; the suffering would be a direct result of attaching to wanting it different. This doesn’t mean I like what’s happening, but I can be in a state of it being unpleasant and not attach the label to it.

Life just rolls along, it stops for nothing. The moment of contact is one continuous motion. It may seem like individual happenings, but that’s only because of the way we have been conditioned to use time and break life up into segments. The unpleasant is constantly pushed away to try and make room for the pleasant as if when one decides it’s pleasant, it makes life perfect. But for there not to be suffering, life has to be deemed as perfect with what’s happening right now, only because that’s what’s there. The Conditioned Mind wants life pleasant all the time and until one can be with the unpleasant the same as the pleasant, there will be self created suffering. This is because one will be always trying to arrange the moment of contact the way they think it should be (pleasant) and not be with what’s actually happening.


Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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