Free Will to Love

A person can only do what the conditioning in place dictates them to do and although it’s looked at as having free will, without investigating if what you are doing is coming from love, there’s nothing free about it.

Acting unloving affects no one more than the one acting in an unloving manner. On the surface some are severely affected by unloving actions, but the long lasting affect of an unloving action goes deeply into the soul of the one committing it. The lack of this love is prevalent all around, at the water cooler at work, in the news, on the road, at home and it all has more to do with someone not getting their way through their conditioning in place and thus acting accordingly. This is what’s thought to be free will, but there’s nothing free about it because this behavior keeps one in bondage. To awaken is to go in the direction of love, when this is done one is truly exerting their free will. This doesn’t mean you will be perfect and love all the time, but it will be the direction you will want to go in all the time.

Nothing else can truly be called free will because there’s never a choice until there is. What I mean by this is for forty nine years I was in bondage to a self serving will and there was absolutely nothing free associated with it. I was told to jump and I did the only thing I could do and that was to jump. For me I stopped drinking alcohol at the age of twenty eight and thought this was a choice, but the only thing that happened was the self serving will was substituted for something different. Bondage is bondage regardless of what has a hold of you. It wasn’t until there was awareness of this that the self serving will slowing began its transformation to go in the direction of love and thus free will. You cannot be self serving and be free, you can tell yourself you have free will, but the only way one’s will will truly be free is if it comes from a place of love.


Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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