Not Always So

Resentments and grudges last for years because of the energy they’re given and until it’s realized what you think is “Not Always So” they remain. All this does is cause harm because this energy has a beginning, but it doesn’t have an end.

What’s often seen as the beginning is also the path to the end, but only if it’s not attached to. This is not to be looked at as negative because without a beginning there can be no end. I once heard someone say that life’s greatest truth can be summed up in three words, “Not Always So” this resonated with me because it’s how it is with just about everything. Most of what is seen is interpreted differently than what’s actually occurring. One would be better off if “Not Always So” was applied to what was first seen, before attaching a label and running with it as truth. Most labels are applied without much thought and once this happens what is seen is given life. If you feel lost that’s not the energy given to you from life, it’s the energy of what the Conditioned Mind is projecting on you. If it was possible to just let things play out without attaching to them, life would be much different. There’s immense value in a “Not Always So” mind because it creates space so the incessant thoughts don’t control.

When a thought arises this is the beginning, but if it’s not given energy it’s also the end. This is how most of life is until one’s conditioning steps in and gives the thought life. The thing is when a thought is given life it takes on a story all its own, which 99.9999% of the time is not so. I won’t say 100% because not much of anything is 100%, but the fact is what one gives energy to is “Not Always So” and until this is seen there will be a beginning, but you won’t know when exactly there will be an end. Resentments last for years as do grudges because of the energy they’re given and until it’s realized that what you think is “Not Always So” it will be, and all this does is cause harm because this energy has a beginning, but it doesn’t have an end.



Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
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