Reaching to be Fulfilled

Until why there’s a need to reach for something to be fulfilled is understood, one will remain a prisoner to the reaching and will always be looking for the next whatever for fulfillment.

What I see that’s missed the most in my writings is the understanding of how all reaching is the same regardless of what is being reached for. The reaching itself is all the same bondage and make no mistake your bondage is your prison. There are so many things reached for, from ayahuasca, to Heroin, a Hersey chocolate kiss, love, God, and it’s this reaching that needs to be looked at. Nobody just reaches for something, something arises from within that tells you there’s a lack that needs to be filled so let’s go and reach for something. This is where the misunderstanding occurs. Because one thinks reaching for ayahuasca is different than reaching for Heroin, and granted the results are different, the true nature of the reaching isn’t identified, so you remain the same even though the things being used are different. It easier to justify when you are reaching to help others than reaching for Heroin, but it’s still reaching so an inner lack is still in need of being fulfilled. Out of everything I write, identifying why there’s a need to reach is at its core. It’s what was revealed to me as being the core of all my problems, with being self centered as the reachings supportive energy.

I know this is difficult to grasp and many will say this guys crazy, how can reaching for God be the same as reaching for a drink of alcohol, or how can reaching for ayahuasca be the same as reaching for Heroin, but it is and it all arises from the inability to truly be present for what’s happening right now. If there’s lack, this will be reinforced by one’s need to reach and if this isn’t grasped, you’ll remain in your prison. Byron Katie just released a new book, watch all the reaching that will be going on. She wrote a book on how to be free, but she will be doing the opposite of what the book says by having many reach for her book, this only reinforces one’s bondage. Understanding this is difficult, but it’s why I don’t push to develop a program, or I won’t become a life coach, to me it’s all nonsense. I will help anyone look within to find their own inner beauty and the only thing needed to do this is to learn to live with what’s occurring now. This is all anything should point to, but because why there’s a need to reach isn’t understood, one remains a prisoner to it and keeps reaching for the next whatever.


Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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