No True Lack

There is never a lack that isn’t created so there is never a true need to rely on anything from the outside of oneself and until this is seen one’s bondage will remain intact.

Think of this, every time someone goes to a program designed for a specific issue because they believe they are this or that, or a person goes to see a therapist, or they reach for another self help book, or if any other type of outside help is sought, because of the applied label of having a certain problem, all one is doing is reinforcing the attachment to that label and hence they’re keeping themselves in bondage to a label that exist only because they themselves have applied it. Read this very carefully because why this label is being applied will be the difference in breaking free from your bondage or remaining entrapped to it. It’s not that some of the things mentioned don’t have value if needed at certain times in one’s life, but if they’re being held onto as an end to a means, they lose their value as the needing morphs into bondage.

Not many will see exactly what I’m talking about here, but I’m writing it because it’s what I experienced after many many years of trying to fix an internal lack which was self created, with things from the outside, and I have found the very things that I was using to fill this lack is what kept me in bondage; this was regardless of what was being used. Why I created this lack is what I needed to find out because it didn’t truly exist and since it didn’t truly exist, why was it there? To me if something from the outside is needed to live life, something isn’t right. If I can’t just be with myself without the reliance on something outside of me, I have to ask myself why this so. There is never a lack that isn’t created so there is never a true need to rely on anything from the outside of oneself and until this is seen one’s bondage will remain intact.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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