Conventional Comparisons

The main reason why one’s existence is so problematic is because of the way we compare our current self to our previous self and to the self of others. This blocks the ability to see our completeness as we are.

Comparisons have no inherent value to them in and of themselves, they are just used as a mind construct to keep itself busy. Our minds mostly live in the conventional world of comparisons and this is why one has problems. Without these conventional comparisons the suchness of life would be experienced instead of all the nonsense that comparisons create. We’ll use containers of water to show how this works. Let’s say there’s a 16oz. bottle of water on a counter, it’s just there, no label is needed for it to exist, now put a gallon of water next to the 16oz. bottle and the gallon is now labeled as bigger. Put a 5 gallon jug next to both and see the label change. Now take away both the gallon and 16oz bottle and away goes the label of the 5 gallon jug as being the biggest, it exist in exactly the same way, with or without the comparisons. The main reason why our existence is so problematic is because of the way we compare our current self to our previous self and to the self of others.

There’s one reasons why someone says they are on a path to become more spiritual, it’s because there’s a comparison to someone else’s idea of what a spiritual path is or one’s old self, this gives the comparison thought energy, but it’s just not true, inherently you exist without needing any comparisons. When the 5 gallon water jug is sitting alone, it exist as it is, there’s nothing to compare it to. This is our true nature, if this isn’t understood you will need, a program, a method, a path, a substance, or something else to reach for because you will be comparing yourself to something which blocks you from seeing how it’s only your comparisons that cause you problems. To see this is to see the suchness of your very being, your completeness as you are, which needs no comparison to be.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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