Shaping Your Heart

When you judge it’s unloving, it has to be as it’s the nature of judging. It matters little how it’s justified and for what reason the judging is done, all judgement separates as it arises from unloving energy.

What’s done is done and for the most part it can’t be undone, but the cause of what’s done can be changed so it’s not repeated, especially when what’s done is unloving. How this change takes place is by the shaping of one’s heart so what’s done comes from a place of love more often than not. If this shaping isn’t a constant in one’s life, a lot of what’s done will be from an unloving place of the Conditioned Mind. It may not be an intentional act that produces results that cause a glaring hurt, but a simple act of talking about someone behind their back is also unloving. Don’t judge another if you can’t cast the first stone and that’s all unloving behavior is; a judgement. Conditioned Mind judgements are formed unconsciously just because of all the energy one is exposed to, its why a shaping of the heart is needed. Although it has been my experience that the shaping of the heart is more of a not doing than it is a doing.

As I have become more aware of the self centered I that was in place for so many years of my life, this awareness has resulted in an ever so slowly transformation of energy from unloving (all about me) energy to loving energy. There’s really nothing to do to become more loving because it will then be the story of love instead of being genuine and natural. In the space of stillness where one’s thoughts aren’t in control, the shaping of the heart takes place as one’s innate goodness arises. There’s no judgement here. When you judge it’s unloving, it has to be, it’s the nature of judging. I don’t care how it’s justified and for what cause, any judgement arises from unloving energy. Judge not for you shall not be judged and if you are and your heart is shaped to love, it won’t really matter.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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