Being Isn’t a Doing

The true essence of life can only be understood by being. Life is not a doing because it exist regardless of what you do. Defining a life through what you think you need to do is your doing, not life’s.

To be and to do are a part of life, but doing occurs from the essence of being. You can always be, but you don’t have to always do. Actually if you aren’t aware of being, whatever is done will be a distraction from the true essence of being. Our experiences are a result of what we do in life, but they don’t make life what it is because if they didn’t occur, life would still be. Doing creates stories. Being creates life.

Think about the most beautiful thing you have ever seen and experienced, now how much does it have to do with life right now? It is a fond memory, a story, but this exact moment would still be regardless of what was seen and experienced. At the time I’m sure the experience was breath taking (to the Conditioned Mind) but it really has nothing to do with right now. The story of it does because the conditioning makes it so, but that is your doing not life’s.

To be is life because to be is. It always is regardless of what you do. This is where many fall short of understanding the true essence of life because doing and not being is put first and is thought to be what’s needed to live life. But life will always be, until one day it won’t be. And all the doing in the world will not stop this from happening. So do whatever it is that you want to do, but understand it is in being where life arises from and when you’re just being, life is lived to the fullest because you don’t have to do. We cannot do the next right thing, we can only be the next right thing. This is why it’s said to “Just Be” not Just Do, because to be is the true essence of life. The simple saying “Just Be” can be used as a tool to stop the squirrel cage “doing” mind in its tracks. After all, we are called human beings and not human doings because it’s only in being that our life can be lived to its fullest intention not to do.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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