Addicted to Thinking

Notice how much you think the same thoughts over and over and you just may be able to settle in a place where your thinking isn’t in control and you may also realize thinking the same thoughts doesn’t really provide much of a benefit.

As long as you’re alive you will think, actually thinking occurs even if you aren’t alive it’s just not you doing it. So thinking isn’t really about what happens as much as it’s about how much one relates their thinking to what happens. This is where one’s conditioning steps in and determines the relation to what thoughts come next. Thinking can be based in love, or it can based in hate, but for most it teeters between the two. Very few go to the extreme of either one of these in their thinking, so the results for most are just constantly switching between the two. When one’s thinking does hit an extreme level, the results are contingent on how much one is conditioned to constantly think; this thinking is what manifest as the emotions that take you for a ride. If you have love as the main influence in your life, obviously you will think of love more than a person who had hate as their influence. This all arises from the individual so if you truly notice the base of your thinking, you may be able to alter your actions. Besides relying on divine intervention which will probably not occur, it will take practice to allow the mind to settle so the base of one’s thinking is noticed.

The true addictions in our society is to thinking and when I is the main subject, it makes one’s existence very irrational. Now multiply that by billions of people and hence you have the world we live in; billions of people constantly thinking about I strictly for their own personal gain. There’s no one to blame for this, it just arises from the thinking within each of us. From the serial killer to the person who does volunteer work, it’s the thinking mind that causes extreme emotional twist and everything else in between. So sit often with the intention of developing the ability to notice how much your thinking is stuck on I and you just may be able to settle in a place where the mind quiets and hopefully you’ll come to realize life isn’t really about I, you just think it is.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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