They Know Not What They Do

When someone does something that isn’t from love, at that time it can be labeled as something that’s disliked or if the mind is settled, it can be seen as “they know not what they do” and one can move on.

They know not what they do, what does this mean? I specifically left off forgive them because to me when what is done is from a state of unconsciousness, there’s nothing to forgive. I do what I do because it’s what’s in place, you do what you do because it’s what’s in place, so everyone does what they do because it’s what’s in place. This is difficult to accept especially if something happens to someone you are attached to, but regardless, it doesn’t change what’s done and if you choose to not look at it as “they know not what they do” there will be immense suffering.

People hurt people and it’s tragic, but it’s the way it is. I’m not labeling it as being wrong, all I do know is when a person hurts another person it’s not based in love, labeling it as anything is just being self righteousness. I have two children and if anything happened to them there would probably be some initial suffering because of my conditioning, but how long that suffering last would be up to me. Regardless of what happens “they know not what they do” will have to be understood if there is to be peace, or not and remain in a self induced state of suffering. Many things happen in life and how one is controlled by those things is dependent on how tight one’s grip is to those things. People die or get hurt by others everyday and yet because there’s no attachment it’s not really given much thought.

The world is the way it is because that’s what’s in place, it would be different if something different was in place, but it’s not so it is as it is. I do what I do because it’s what’s in place and although I’ve found much more peace because love is cultivated as my base, I don’t really make it into a story of this or that. And as the world around me and the people in it do what they do because it’s what’s in place, I have a choice to either want things to be different and remain with that suffering or understand “they know not what they do” and move on. 

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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