Inwardly Complete

Inward is our completeness. Outward there are so many distractions that one’s incompleteness is inevitable. An inward view is of the heart where one can just be with no distractions.

Our peace is inward, regardless of what goes on outside. This is difficult to comprehend because of the developed view that when we get this or that we’ll be at peace. There is nothing wrong with getting A’s in school, being the best in the sport that one plays, getting promotions at work, etc. but understand when one equates their accomplishment to their sense of well-being, the sense of well-being will not last. This isn’t only applied to accomplishing something, it applies to all of life. Even if you’re told you have a year to live, it still doesn’t have anything to do with what’s happening right now. If you’re living by the conventional way of thinking, the developed view tells you to create a story, but if you can find a way to stay out of your head, you will minimize the nonsense going on between you ears and all you will have to deal with is what’s actually occurring.

It makes no sense to live life from out there, but this is where most of people live. No matter what’s accomplished the moment it’s completed it’s over, only the memory engrained from the conventional way of thinking makes you attach a story that it means something, you then use it to define your identity and establish your sense of well-being from it. Our inner psyche plays havoc on our emotions and we listen to it because this is the way its been developed.

Think of it as whistling in the dark to keep the bogeyman away. The bogeyman doesn’t exist, but we whistle anyway and here is the irony of this, we are doing something to keep something away that doesn’t exist, think about the insanity of this. It’s the same with our so called accomplishments, we gauge our well-being on them, but we’re using them like whistling in the dark. Once an accomplishment is completed, the only reason we draw on it is because of a mind that needs to use something to keep away the bogeyman that we’re a failure. We’re neither a failure or a success regardless of our accomplishments, it’s only our developed conventional way of thinking that makes us think as we do. Our peace inward is our life eternal, it’s of the heart, it’s the only place where our completeness exist. It doesn’t take any accomplishment for this to be, as a matter of fact when one can just be one is complete. 

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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