Understanding our Entanglements

If it isn’t known what keeps one closed minded and entangled to a customary view of life, it’ll be very difficult to separate from it and experience any transformation beyond the customary view.

Although the things that one is entangled with may be difficult to see, when for whatever reason one becomes untangled, it is than that the possibility of being free from one’s owns bondage can transpire. What needs to happen for this to occur is for one to sense a separation from the customary way of perceiving one’s life view. The customary view of life has to fall by the wayside, at least to the point where one is in limbo in between what is customary and what isn’t. It doesn’t have to be a white light experience or anything dramatic, just a subtle sense that maybe there’s more to one’s life than meets the eye.

My own separation began because of desperate circumstances and although it was only a sliver of an opening, it was enough for the separation and in between process to begin. All transformations are unique unto themselves and the individual, but there are three aspects to them that are common. They are separation, in between, and transformation, at least this is the way it occurred for me and numerous people I’ve discussed this with. Tomorrow I will elaborate on these three in more detail, today our entanglements are the focus. Here is the definition of entangled – “involved (someone) in difficulties or complicated circumstances from which it is difficult to escape” these entanglements are one’s bondage and if this isn’t identified the bondage remains.

Most entanglements manifest from a Conditioned Mind story of this or that and because of this, one is subtly entrapped in a self created prison which most people are unaware of; this unawareness just makes one more entangled. So what is one to do? If when reading this article the truth of it can be seen, even just an inkling, separation is there and can be expanded upon. If not and this article is discarded without investigation, although it may be subtle, one’s suffering will continue on. So take heed in what is written here because this explains the nature of bondage and if one can’t be separated from their customary way of viewing life they will remain entangled (in bondage) to their self created prison. A prison that doesn’t have to be, but it will take separation and awareness of being in between one’s customary view for any transformation to occur and break out of prison. 

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change. www.mondayinyourmind.com
Michael Cupo

Latest posts by Michael Cupo (see all)


Speak Your Mind