Freedom From Duality

Life needn’t be all figured out to make sense; what needs to be understood is there’s only one you. This understanding of no dual self goes a long way in establishing freedom from one’s own bondage.

Although I wouldn’t have considered what I went through eight years ago as a blessing, I now see it as so because I have the unique distinction of living two entirely different existences and how because of these dual views my usefulness to God, the Universe, or whatever label is put on it, has transformed me to place I would have never been a part of had this not occurred. What this has availed for me is to see that there are two ways to live life; one is to constantly struggle with life by having an incessant need to arrange things to be a certain way and the other is to live in the freedom of the present moment which is provided by the Universe for its betterment. The two ways are vastly different with the present moment being so much more conducive to life itself.

At one time I was lost, but am now found and things are totally different today. I’ve learned to just do whatever it is that’s in front of me as opposed to living in a state of constant discontentment in the past or future. There’s a certain freedom to being in the moment, as opposed to living the lie that there’s a self (duality) that needs to control things. What happened to me happened, it isn’t special nor does it mean much of anything, but what it did do for me was allow for an awareness of being entrapped in one existence and being free from its bondage in another. And although existence in this form is occurring, it’s not occurring in the way most of my life was spent; conditioned to think there was a self that all this nonsense was happening to, this was my state of duality.

Freedom from the attachment to a self serving dual entity is freedom to do what whatever it is that life provides. This not only takes the guess work out of existence, but it also allows for a modern day miracle of a blind man being given the opportunity to see. No longer am I lost, because there’s no duality to get lost in and no I to be lost, but there is a being that has been provided the blessing and unique distinction of having had two ways to exist and is now being used by the Universe for its betterment, in whatever capacity that may be. 

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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