Role Playing

When one’s existence is based on the roles that are assigned by society or oneself, it blocks out the ability to live from beyond the surface which locks one into the identity of the assigned role.

From the time existence in this form begins there are many different roles that one takes on. Some are temporary and some last the entire existence, but regardless of what role is used at any particular time, it’s only a role, it’s never who one truly is. It can and is made into who one thinks they are, but this is one of the greatest misgivings in life because it blocks the ability to see things beyond the surface.

The first role taken on is either that of a son or daughter with a name to identify that role. From there the surface existence expands as does the role as school is attended and certain habits are developed. There are roles associated with ones athletic abilities, intelligence or seeming lack of, hence the role of the class clown lol, and this role taking continues for the rest of ones life. High school, college, occupation, spouse, parent, social status, and on and on, but it’s a role that is always defined from the surface which blocks one’s true essence from being known.

I know for me this caused much difficulty in my life because I always associated who I was with a role and with this surface role taken on, the ability to get in touch with my natural creative energy was virtually impossible. This is our I Am beneath the surface that allows life to be as it is, not as the assigned role or roles that the Conditioned Mind conjures up and makes a person think this is who they are. Nothing from the surface will ever allow our Creative Potential to be reached because on the surface a role will always be assigned, but and this may be the most important but of one’s life, if for some reason one becomes aware that this role assigning is nothing but an illusion, it will be at this point the roles of surface living can be let go and the true potential of one’s life becomes what’s at the surface, not as an assigned role, but from the love of one’s heart. 

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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