Distinguishing What’s Real

One has to decipher for themselves what truth is, but just as it is when someone is stranded in the desert, what’s real and what’s a mirage can be very difficult to distinguish exactly which is which.

Our mind takes a situation and perceives it in the way it has been conditioned. This perception determines how attached we are to the situation as a perceived reality. But is the perception real or are we just seeing a mirage? This doesn’t mean there isn’t a reality, it’s just means that one’s perceived reality is part of the mirage. Okay so what does this actually mean? I know there are many ways to interpret this, but since I wrote it I will explain what I meant. There was a TV commercial with two men stranded in the desert and every time someone came by to offer them assistance, they chalked it up to being a mirage. The assistance was real, but that’s not what the two men perceived. To them what they saw was a mirage so even though the assistance was real, it was ignored.

So how is one to distinguish between what is real and what isn’t? To me the first thing to establish is none of it is real, but how can this be? What of war, abuse, gang violence, death, poverty, greed, etc, all real, but only because the human aspect of the mind makes it so. None of how humans behave and use the mind is life’s doing, so what is done is only real to the extent that humans fabricate these things. If it wasn’t for humans the atrocities of life would never occur. This is where the mirage comes into play. It’s all nonsense made up by a Conditioned Mind to make one believe that what happens in life is real. But how real can it be when as soon as it occurs it becomes the past and only exist in one’s mind.

We live in a fabricated world of the past, present, and future, because regardless of what happens, all things pass. As soon as something occurs it becomes the past, but we attach a perception to it, so the past is part of the mirage. It happened, there’s no denying that, but regardless of what occurs, it’s only a memory, a thought, and a thought has no real substance to it except for the energy it’s given. Even though it happened it’s not happening now, so by living in the past, life is lived as a mirage.

The future is part of the mirage also because it hasn’t even occurred yet. So a reality can’t be attached to something that hasn’t happened. It may or may not happen, but there’s no reality in something that hasn’t happened yet, so this too is fabricated as reality, but this is part of the mirage. This leaves the present, but this is also part of the mirage. You may ask if it is always now how is this part of the mirage? Because as soon as it is now it Instantly becomes the past. So is it always now or is it always the past? And with the future not even here yet, how can we decipher which part of the past, present, or future is real? But again what of the things that were listed above, like war, abuse, poverty, and what not, aren’t they real? Yes, but only in the sense that they’re all part of the same mirage because as soon as they occur, they become the past and only exist in one’s mind. So in summary what’s in the past, present, future should remain in where they are, this is of course unless one wants to live their life as if it were a mirage.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change. www.mondayinyourmind.com
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