Unquestioned Assumptions

There’s a tug-of-war that occurs in most lives between an outer and inner view and whichever view is given more energy determines if our actions and reactions are based to self serve or to love.

If we are unconscious in our daily decision making process, many of our actions and reactions will be habitual decisions made without knowing if they’re really beneficial to our life. Without some semblance of awareness that provides a degree of stillness, our life becomes one of unquestioned assumptions as we unconsciously think we are the decider of our decisions. There’s no need to question this if it is assumed one has all the answers. These are the created blocks that hamper our ability to live from our intuitive stillness.

When life is lived from unquestioned assumptions this creates a battle between our inner urging from the Universe, which is to love and our outer urging from the ego, which is to self serve. This battle is a inner tug-of-war with ourself. When the ego is in control we have unquestioned assumptions that the things of the world are in place to fulfill our outer desires, but intuitively we’ll know this not to be true if there is stillness because we will understand our inner urging from the Universe.

Our outer urgings are a product of our environment, of our influences, and of one’s ego. This is what creates assumptions and makes them go unquestioned. The fallacy of this is in how life is lived and how everything seems to be as it appears. The ego creates this and it blocks our ability to love, this is what causes our internal battle. But if the assumptions were questioned and the mind stopped long enough to see this fallacy, our inner essence of love would be exposed as our intuitive essence. This would stop the tug-of-war with our ego and the unquestioned assumptions would never cause us to battle ourselves again.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change. www.mondayinyourmind.com
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