Acceptance to Move On

One can only act in the ways that are inside. A trigger activates the Conditioned Mind and one can only act according to what’s in place. Accept it until the mind settles and move on.

Our unity as a society is dependent on learning to love ourselves unconditionally. If we judge ourselves there is no way we won’t judge others. And in our judgements, our unity as a society will be fleeting at best. Our unity with humanity doesn’t start with humanity, it starts with ourself. If we can’t accept ourself as we are there’s no way we will be able to accept anyone else as they are. We may be able to accept them for a time, if they are as we want them to be, but they remaining that way will also be fleeting at best. This ability to accept ourselves will only occur when we know our own mind. And only in the sense of how it is the cause of not accepting ourselves exactly as we are.

Think of this when you act in a way that’s not in your best interest, where does that originate from? Who would purposely act in a way that isn’t beneficial to their own well being, but it’s done all the time. These acts come from one’s own mind, but it’s not the act that causes the problem, it’s wanting the way one acts to be in some other way that’s the problem, but it’s impossible to change it because it’s already been done. So accept it and move on, and possibly if you are practicing living a life that allows the mind to settle, the next time something triggers the Conditioned Mind to act in a way that’s not in one’s best interest, one may be able to respond differently, but if one does act in a way that’s not beneficial, accept it and move on. When the mind settles enough, you will stop acting in ways that aren’t in your best interests, but in the meantime understand you are perfect just as you are because good, bad, or indifferent, you are only doing what you are conditioned to do, just accept it and move on.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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