Grateful To Be

It’s often said if one is feeling ungrateful in life, a list should be made of the things they have. But if the things themselves don’t make for a happy existence, why would one think a list of them will?

Many people who have everything money can buy are unhappy. Life is not a blessing when one has much, its a blessing when one gives much. The more one thinks life is a blessing because of what is had, the less content one is. If you don’t think this is so, how content would you be if everything you had was taken? What if the life you have now changed and all your so called blessings were not there, would you still be content? Something to think about.

The unfortunate thing about this is it is only through ignorance that any discontentment occurs. But its not one’s glaring discontentments that only cause this, it’s the subtle ones that most people don’t even realize are there that makes them discontented. How one will know if they are truly content is manifested in the way they behave. Because discontentment is based in self centeredness it is usually associated with one of, but not limited to these behaviors (anger, guilt, envy, righteousness, jealously, pride, and greed). So if one’s life isn’t based in love for others than it will be impossible for it to be a contented one. This is because life will be about what one possesses. Life is not a blessing because of what one has. One can only be truly content when it is understood how a life that’s based in love results in one being grateful. One will never be truly content because of what they have because unfortunately the ego always wants more. And as long as one wants more, true contentment will never be, but in love one is always grateful because there’s nothing needed for it to occur.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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