A True Need

A true need isn’t something that’s needed to fulfill some made up want or desire. A true need is what’s provided by the Universe for its benefit which in turn is beneficial to all beings.

Every time a person reaches for something on the outside, regardless of what it is, it is produced by an agitation from ones own mind that makes one think its needed. It isn’t a true need, but this isn’t known because it is a habitual behavior pattern that has been in place for a very long time. Air, water, shelter, sleep, food that satisfies hunger, love, are true needs. Most everything else are wants and desire, but the created delusion is they are true needs.

Understanding this difference of what is beneficial and what is not, goes a long way in understanding how to break the chains of unnecessary, wants and desires. They are deemed unnecessary because they are the ones that really seem to cause most of our problems. If the desire is truly from the heart to love and to practice bringing love in all our affairs, I can’t really see this as being unnecessary or a problem, unless it is derived from some lack inside that needs this for fulfillment. It is up to each individual to investigate this for themselves.

When this is known, it can be changed by learning to eliminate the unnecessary needs. One will never reach outside for anything without this needing because without it there isn’t a want or desire manifested that needs to reach. What one will be left with is a beneficial life that is full of love manifested as a life of quietness, where the Universe can use our own innate goodness as an instrument for its betterment. This is not some make believe concept or idea, this is as real as the life you are given gets. But the only reason this isn’t done is because of our selfish Conditioned Mind making us believe we need things that aren’t truly necessary. 

Look at this for yourself, why is there a need to reach for anything in the first place and who gets satisfied when the thing is obtained? The world, others, I think not. You and you alone are satisfied, but the misgiving is it never last, the want and desire have to be satisfied over and over again. Different objects are used by different people and this reaching is the true addiction of our society, not to a substance, but to the need to reach for the sole purpose of satisfying our selfishness. Freedom from bondage is freedom from this selfishness. One will stop reaching outside themselves to fulfill selfish wants and desires when there is no longer a need to do so. There will no longer be a need to do so when its understood that in this moment right now, one is complete as they will ever be.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change. www.mondayinyourmind.com
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