The Value of Impermanence

Understanding impermanence has much value to it because when it is, the craving for fulfillment is replaced with the satisfaction that whatever happens next doesn’t matter much because one day what’s next will prove how impermanent life really is.


Nobody knows the future, but what does the future matter if the present isn’t being lived to the fullest. It is often said we can’t really know what is going to happen next, but we all know this, death at least in this form will one day happen next, its just not known when that next will be. This is just a part of life, regardless of ones belief, one day this body will cease to support life as it is known today. We can make up a place that we are going to go to when we die (spiritually) but the body is going to become void of life and it will either be cremated or decay 6 feet underground. If this one truth can be understood than nothing else would truly matter because the impermanence of all things would be seen. And once this is seen life takes on an entirely different dynamic.


No longer is there something needed for fulfillment when this dynamic occurs because one realizes life is already fulfilled. How can it not be with the understanding that all you need you already have and all that you have has no lasting substance to it. If everything is impermanent, everything is temporary, so nothing will bring fulfillment to life except an understanding that life’s already fulfilled. Everything is a temporary fix used to be fulfilled, that’s why things are constantly reached for. If there wasn’t a craving to be fulfilled, there wouldn’t be a need to reach for the temporary fix. So that’s why the understanding of impermanence has so much value to it because when it occurs the craving for fulfillment will be replaced with the satisfaction that whatever happens next doesn’t matter much because one day what’s next will prove just how impermanent life really is.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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