No Need for Answers

There was never peace in my life because my mind was conditioned in a way that it always seemed to need answers. And by always needing an answer, it was exact thing that was causing me to not be at peace.
My urging to seek answers came from within, but my mind had been conditioned to look for answers on the outside. What creates this seeking of answers is an urging from ones own mind that something more needs to be known. But no one can ever know it all (although some think they do) so when does the mind say enough is known, so there’s no reason to continue to seek answers? Probably never because no one will ever know it all.

The more I thought I knew, the less was actually known, but there can be a point when the need to know ceases because it doesn’t matter what is known. This is when its realized there is no more needed to know because there is no one to know. You see life happened to me whether answers were known or not, but the thing is if one is always seeking answers there will never be peace. That’s why the seeking of peace is what actually created my own mind to become agitated, which kept it from being at peace. This is the insanity of a mind that needs answers. The needing of answers is what causes it to become agitated to begin with, but the only reason it becomes agitated is because an I is created who is thought to need the answers, but when there isn’t an I who needs answers, there will be peace because answers won’t matter.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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