Captive Mind

A mind that misses the mark to love can’t change itself with self help methods. Only through the quietness of the heart can one be set free from the bondage of self that holds the mind in captivity.

Our do it yourself self help mentality to a better life is like having an atlas of maps for the USA, but a trip to Europe is being planned. The map has its purpose, but its usefulness is limited, so if its not used correctly it will never get you to your destination. I posted something similar to this yesterday and I received to responses from people on how befuddled they were by this post. I didn’t insinuate there isn’t value in the USA atlas, but the usefulness of it is limited, and it becomes useless if not traveling in the US. Do not many of the self help methods produce these same useless results? We are constantly trying to arrange life, thinking we can fix ourselves by trying to fill an inner void with all kinds of things from the outside. And regardless of the fix, the void never gets filled. This is not some theory I made up, it is factual and this is what happened to me. Just look around and see how the world is full of people doing this same exact thing, and if you are truly honest with yourself you are probably doing it yourself.

Think of this, the mind that creates the need for self help is the same mind that’s going to be used to fix it. Is this feasible? If this mind didn’t create problems to begin with, the need for self help wouldn’t be required. Its like changing a flat tire and putting the same flat tire back on and expecting it to be repaired. Something that’s broke cannot be used to repair itself. It would take a miracle for this to happen and if one wants to rely on miracles, so be it. 

The other question to ask is, have you ever done something and asked yourself why did you do it? Understand the mind that told you to do the thing is the same mind that is now questioning why it was done. And this is the mind that self help relies on. There is no wonder we humans are in the state that we’re in. Humans have created the way the world is and the same humans are trying to fix it, and get this, with the same mind that made the world the way it is. A mind that is broke cannot repair itself, if it could it wouldn’t have a need to be repaired to begin with. Just sayin.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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