Accepting Life Results

Life will always be as it is, regardless of the plans for it to be a certain way. It’s not that plans aren’t made, its just that the results are usually much different than anticipated.

Someone asked when I make plans, what happens when the results don’t pan out? Its so important to plan plans and not results. For me this has led to the freedom of non attachment. I plan for things, like retirement, kids colleges, vacation, promotions in work, seminars, etc. Here is an example of how non attachment allows for certain freedoms. As many know I wrote a book, I may write another one someday, I promote my book minimally, because I don’t need it to be anything other then what it is, a book. Its not used to define who I am, even if one day it becomes a #1 best seller, nothing would really change, it would still be just a book. So results only affect a self that is attached to them because they are being used for specific made up reasons.

The results of life are pretty much up to life, I do things today that put me in cooperation with it, but results are not a concern. Yesterday’s post was about using tools in this fashion as opposed to using ones that aren’t beneficial, because basically that’s what I’m learning to do, see whats beneficial in life and whats not, and stop doing whats not.

Planning plans, but not results has such a huge impact on the freedom from the bondage of self because it allows life to be accepted for what it is. Life doesn’t care if its accepted or not, it doesn’t look for anyone’s permission to be, but it does seem to flow so much more fluently when there isn’t any resistance. After all, change isn’t difficult, its the resistance to change that makes it difficult. The nature of life is change and planning plans and not results is just a part of going with the flow of what is and accepting life’s results, regardless if they were planned for or not.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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