Self Rightousness

To know our own heart is to abide in a peace that can’t be shaken by the inhabitants of a world thats not designed for peace. How easy it is for someone to point out presumed faults in others without remembering the imperfections in their own life.

We never need anyone’s approval for something we know to be truth, but we should always remain kind and gentle and understand our heart and the heart of some just may not be connected. No one is more right, regardless of what is believed. It may not be what is seen by another, but who can truly know what someone else has been through to bring them to the place in life that they are at. Self righteousness has much to do with why there is so much strife in our world, because of everyone trying to force their belief or concept on another. But this isn’t to judge anyone because what is in place is what is done. Its just to point out that when someone shares what they went through as opposed to a belief or concept, it has so much more of an affect where connecting hearts are concerned. When one sticks to their facts and shares from the heart, others seem to get so much more out of it than trying to force a belief or concept on someone. If love is ones credo than love is what should be shared.

It should never be forgotten where one comes from, it is imperative to remember this to prevent from becoming self righteous. Even the most pious of us have erred in a way that was from some self serving desire. If you truly think the first stone can be thrown, do it, but if the first stone is thrown at someone because now the light is seen, don’t forget all the time that was spent in darkness. Stop taking credit for seeing the light because the little self that is now beating its chest and is self righteous had nothing to do with it. By Grace we come into existence and by Grace we are set free. And if self righteousness is your credo because you think you are a chosen, well that in and of itself is self righteousness. My God loves everyone the same, but if I think I was chosen does that mean God loves me more? Walk humbly in the love of your heart, assist where and if it is wanted, be in the Grace of silence and allow life to use you for its own fulfillment. And if the light is seen and it is made a belief that its your calling to make others see, don’t forgot all the time spent in darkness. By all means try and shine the light of love and make everyone see it, but know in your heart that it wasn’t of your doing that you were allowed to see the light.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change.
Michael Cupo

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