A Real Sense of Love

A false sense of I (ego) created by a lack of love makes it seem real. When one is made aware of this and there is harmony with life, the false sense of I dissipates and becomes a real sense of love.

When there’s nowhere to go but down for many this is a point where an existence that is strictly self serving begins to turn around and go in a different direction. This turn around is not something that is done by the individual, although by being at this point the circumstances allow for the opening of the heart, this is done by the urging of love. But this is not the case for all because the love in some is buried deeper. This is a pivotal point in ones life and unfortunately some go even further down and cause their own destruction. The insanity of this is this is caused by ones own Conditioned Mind.

This is the diabolicalness of the Conditioned Mind, it will choose a path the leads to a person’s own demise. It will choose a path that harms others, the most important fact is regardless of the selected behavior it all removes the ability to be in harmony with life and live it to the fullest. The selected behavior of the Conditioned Mind is always self serving. It is for the sole purpose to satisfy a false sense of I. This behavior is always destructive whether it is to bring our I pleasure or harm. And it is this false sense of I that is the cause of the destructiveness, not the behavior. If this I isn’t eradicated, life will never be truly lived. It will only be lived to satisfy I as if we were puppets on a string. This is the cause of all suffering. 

So it is imperative to understand that the ego is not real, that it is developed by a lack of love in a person’s life. The main thing to understand is this lack is not you and even what is considered the real you is not you. We are but a dreamer within the dream that needs to awaken so we can become aware of what keeps us unaware. And what do we become aware of, but our true nature to love. This will only occur when there is no where else to go but down because we become desperate enough to hear the calling of love. This is the point that is the beginning of the end of the false sense of I (the idea the ego is real) because it can only survive with there is a lack of love. And when this point is reached it is the Universes way of urging us to go in a different direct and discover the love that is in our heart so it is learned to do what is necessary to be in harmony with life and in the process live life to the fullest with the love that is provided from the urging of the Universe.

Michael Cupo
I grew up in Newark, New Jersey, one of six children. I have been married for 25 years. I own a home, and I have two children. I have been at the same job for 28 years. I am the happiest I have ever been and it is all because of the Love that has always been in my life. I attribute all that has happened to me to that Love. None of what has transpired in the last five years of my life has anything to do with any accomplishments on my part. There was always a lot of love in our home as I grew up, but for reasons unknown to me at the time I was always in trouble. I was at the top of my brother-in-law’s “Who My Sister Shouldn’t Marry” list. I drank alcoholically, gambled, abused drugs and painkillers. I bounced from relationship to relationship. Even after I stopped abusing alcohol and drugs in 1987, my so-called outer troubles stopped, but my self-centered behavior never changed. All I did was substitute one compulsion for another. Although my addiction became more respectable—taking the form of material possessions—I was still trapped, migrating restlessly from one obsession to another. I went to Twelve Step meetings, derived some benefit from them, and then fell away. My loved ones got me into de-tox and rehab programs. But once I was released, the cycle of insatiable craving started all over again. This cycle seemed to work for me . . . until it didn’t. And then my life changed — not instantly or magically, but profoundly. I share this change in It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts. I discovered that I wasn’t dependent upon a substance or activity, but ruled by my ego. My need to reach outside myself for fulfillment was created by a false perception of deficiency. If this sense of lack didn’t exist in me, there wouldn’t have been a need to reach and grasp. My credentials for writing this book are simply that I live this change each day. My view of life is so different from the way it used to be. Through the practice outlined in my book, I have learned to quiet my mind enough to allow my heart to open. The quieter my mind becomes, the more Love becomes the default setting of my life. This is truly a modern-day miracle, a miracle that can happen to anyone who has the urge to change. www.mondayinyourmind.com
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